The Small Steps That Create Big Change

“You just need more willpower.”

How many times have you heard that?

In reality, most people don’t need more willpower. They need a better plan—and one that works with their real life, not against it.   (If you're working on setting realistic goals, this post can help: [How to Set Realistic Health Goals].)

Why Habits Matter More Than Motivation

Motivation gets you started—but habits keep you going.

As James Clear says in Atomic Habits:

“Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement.”

Just like money in a savings account, small, consistent actions add up over time—often more than we expect.

Whether your goal is to feel stronger, eat better, sleep more, or reduce stress, it’s not one big overhaul that gets you there. It’s the small, repeated steps that build momentum.

The Most Common Habit Mistakes

The biggest mistake people make with habits is thinking they have to be perfect or powered by motivation every day.

But motivation comes and goes—and perfectionism can leave you feeling like a failure if you miss a day or lose focus.

That’s why habits work best when they’re:

• Built into your routine

• Anchored to something you already do

• Small enough that you can follow through - even on tough days

My Own Journey: One Step at a Time

After my first hip replacement, I knew I wanted to rebuild my health—but I didn’t try to change everything all at once.

I started with short walks and physical therapy.
Then, I added strength training twice a week.
Next came 30–45 minute walks, four days a week.
After that, I joined an exercise class once a week… then increased to two.

Only after I felt comfortable and consistent with my movement routine did I begin to get serious about changing my eating habits.

That same process—one habit at a time—helped me build a foundation for long-term well-being. And it’s the approach I use with my clients, too.

A Simple Habit Framework That Works

Here’s the process I guide clients through to build habits that last:

1. Identify – Choose one small habit that supports your vision (If you haven't created a wellness vision yet, start here: [How to Create a Wellness Vision])

2. Anchor – Tie it to something you already do (a time of day, a routine, or a cue)

3. Repeat – Keep it simple enough to repeat often

4. Adjust – Be flexible; tweak it if it’s not working

Example:

• Habit: Drink a glass of water every morning

• Anchor: Right after brushing your teeth

• Repeat: Daily

• Adjust: Use a sticky note or set a reminder if you forget

Progress happens through consistency, not intensity.

HER Connection: Why Habits Matter

In my coaching, we focus on HER—Habits, Energy, and Resilience.

Why are habits first?

Because they create the foundation.

• Habits support your energy

• Habits reinforce resilience

• Habits help you take small steps, even when life is unpredictable

Ready to Try One Small Habit?

If there’s an area of your health you’ve been wanting to improve, start by asking:

✨ What’s one small habit I can try this week that feels doable - even on a busy day?

If you’re not sure where to begin - or you’ve tried before and didn’t stick with it - I’d love to help.

👉 [Schedule Your Free HER Clarity Call]

Together, we’ll explore what matters most to you and build a plan that works for your real life.